http://www.theboyrook.com my sexploration of bdsm, kink, and servitude - denver co Sat, 05 Nov 2011 17:43:20 +0000 en hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 http://www.theboyrook.com/2011/11/guy-fawkes-day-do-something-subversive/ http://www.theboyrook.com/2011/11/guy-fawkes-day-do-something-subversive/#comments Sat, 05 Nov 2011 17:35:53 +0000 rook http://www.theboyrook.com/?p=275 http://www.theboyrook.com/2011/11/guy-fawkes-day-do-something-subversive/feed/ 0 http://www.theboyrook.com/2011/11/shame-kink-and-privacy/ http://www.theboyrook.com/2011/11/shame-kink-and-privacy/#comments Thu, 03 Nov 2011 16:12:12 +0000 rook http://www.theboyrook.com/?p=272 Scene Names In his article on the topic, Loren Berthelsen brings up a lot of concepts in a very short article. How do we deal with events, say, if going to IML and being asked why you're traveling to Chicago. Do we just say "a convention" or do we describe exactly what IML is. And for that matter, what is IML? I think for those of us who travel to events like that, we are choosing to shed some of our right to privacy and have that responsibility to educate those who might be interested. But there's a difference between being open and educational and ramming it down people's throats. Just as those of us who wrestle with dual gay-Christian identities have to disassociate our love from our sex for the sex-obsessed fundamentalists, we kinksters need to be able to describe the community and enthusiast aspects of our events without leading people to being that kink-cons are just great big orgies (even if they are great big orgies ... it's all about proper messaging). 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