the boy, rook

Random Career Goal…

Want to know what I did today? I spent hours and hours creating a database migration protocol for a client. That means writing a program that will take all their gobbledygook data that’s sitting in the old database, and rework it so it fits in the new database in a slightly less awful way. If it sounds like a boring, tedious venture fraught with unknowable pitfalls, that’s because it is!

I actually love this stuff, most of the time. I get to work for myself, work from home, and work with the web and other interactive doo-dads in ways that I truly enjoy and have fun with. (This site is not my best work.  :P ) But a lot of times, it’s boring old database migration crap. And it’s days like this that I think, “man, I would love to work on a porn site …” or something like that.

I used to have a gay friend in California who edited straight porn movies. I was intrigued in doing that as a career path, if slightly grossed out by the content. But the problem with adult websites and especially bdsm sites is that they’re kind of low tech, old, dated, poorly designed, whatever.

As a person who explores new technologies and strategies daily, I’d love to find ways to develop really cool shit for really naughty sites. I dunno if the economics of it would work out, and I couldn’t use any of it for my portfolio, but still I’ve always kinda wanted to be a webmaster to the (porn) stars.

Of course such grandiose ideas are a bit silly and unprofitable, but maybe there’s an in-between. Maybe I could barter something.

As a good sub/boy, I could (should?) use my skills in service. People like Master Taino or groups like MaST are the most revered and respected stalwarts of our community, but you know, they’re not web people. I am a web person. In service or in barter, be it for training, experience, or just a cup of coffee to chat, I wish I could use my talents to serve folks like this and help improve the overall standard for the BDSM community online.

Or something like that. I just always like to try to give back to the communities I’m a part of, some way or another.

But for now, I must get away from the computer screen before my brain rots out.

Ask Me Anything

Hey, lookitthat – my first two questions from Tumblr and Formspring Ask Me Anything.

Anonymous on Formspring asked “Hey I am based in London and saw your blog. I feel we are at the same stage of discovering the BDSM world. I just wanted to say you are luck to have a supportive boyfriend! So if I can ask, what do you think of watersport? x”

Hi Glad to hear from someone else on the journey, especially from London – one my favorite cities in all the world. It’s been a while since I’ve been back there and I’m missing it, and there are a lot more kinksters there than I ever thought there were, so that’s all the more reason to go! And my boyfriend is amazing – and I count myself lucky a thousand times over. He even tried to Dom me a little the other night, just because he knows its what I like, but more on that later.

Watersports, basically, is degrading, humiliating, kinky, and fun. For some it helps put them in the right headspace as a lowly sub/slave/boy, for others it’s a total turn on. I’ve chatted with a guy or two that loves getting pissed on – that’s all they want, and that’s their scene – nothing elaborate, just getting pissed on. I kind of joke that what I don’t really “get” about w/s is not the kink or turn-on factor, but that it makes for a pretty short session. I mean, how much can a person actually pee in any one go?

That said, I think used creatively watersports can be a hot addition to an overall scene, session or weekend. Having a party with a bunch of Doms? Put your sub out on the deck kneeling in a wash tub to serve as the toilet for everyone. Wanna push a boy in his service even when you’re not around, make him collect his urine all day, every day, between sessions. Whether he’s at work or out and about, he should carry a water bottle and fill it. Then the Dom use the urine in the next weekend session – as the only thing the boy can use to wash or drink or whatever (encouraging the boy to stay hydrated lest his pee get gross).

The possibilities for raunch are endless, I would imagine. It just depends what you’re into at the time. For me, I enjoy the idea of water sports as part of a greater scene or session, not necessarily on its own. I’ve laid in the tub so a Dom could piss on me at the end of a session and it was warm and smelled a little but wasn’t something particularly exciting on its own. Depends on whether you’ve got a good piss top I guess. And as with anything, one should be smart about playing with bodily fluids; while generally considered safe and relatively sterile, urine is not 100% clean. Just throwin’ that out there.

Great. Now all I can think about is getting tied up, kneeling, and serving as a toilet for a hot Dom or seven. Thanks a lot

By the way please feel free to email me, Mr. Anonymous from London. Love to chat and get to know others on this journey especially those with sexy accents.

Anonymous on Tumblr asked, “what makes you the most horny?”

Wow that’s a loaded question. I think if you take a look around my Tumblr raw porno feed or the blog, you’ll get a quick sense of what makes me the most horny. But here’s a few ideas…

• Almost any kind of power exchange, where I not only give up power or control, but that it is wrested away from me. Sometimes with gear. Sometimes not.
• A hot, muscled Master, perhaps with a light dusting of hair, in a leather harness will just about make me cum right then and there. Like this guy. Or him.  And this guy.
• Creativity and Complexity in a scene or setup. More than just “You’ll suck my big cock.” I crave a Master who can use my mind as much as my body. Dungeons, bondage, long scenes.
• Bondage is hot, and needn’t involve sex to be sexual or sensual or meaningful. Hardware, rope, shackles, mummification – I long to spend some time as an object.
• Pain is not something that’s particularly a turn on by itself, but the idea of pushing myself or being pushed to experience new and deeper sensations absolutely it.

That should give some sense of what makes me the most horny. I’d say it’s a pretty good summary of the things that do it best for me … considering I jacked off in the middle of writing it and finding the linkable pictures.

A Different Kind of Fantasy

So I live in New York City. We have a lot here going for us … a generally free-wheeling spirit, an openness to the weird, a large fetish network (or so I’ve been told) and of course the gay NY Bondage Club (someday I’ll work the courage). But he city is also draining, and tiresome, and poor on community and it’s tough to really build relationships and friendships here.

My bf and I don’t really intend to stay here forever. We intend to move to a mountain state out West, where there is nature and friendlier people and more to do on this earth than drink in bars. We’ll buy some land, maybe build a house, but I’d really like to build or buy a cabin. Or maybe a bunch of cabins that we could rent out on occasion (I’m always business minded, hehe).

In any case a cabin (or cabins) with plenty of space, secluded somewhere in the woods far from civilization and nosy neighbors. Set in a clearing with space for a bonfire, maybe a stream nearby, the cabin would be fully equipped and the perfect place to get away.

And built of wood, sturdy and sound, a sling could easily be attached to the ceiling of the living room, the front porch, or any bedroom. Add in the occasional inconspicuous eye hook or ring for q rope to pass through, or shackles, or handcuffs. Closets the perfect size for cages. Rubber sheets in the bottom drawer of each bedroom’s bureau. Every bed equipped with a restraint system. A kitchen that could accommodate a couple of beshackled slave/boys preparing a meal.

Outdoors, trees to tie a boy too. Stretch his arms and legs between trees, hang him by his wrists or his feet. A hose, or outdoor shower, to wash him down and clean him out. Stocks or a Cross that can be stowed for vanilla guests, but brought out for a fireside flogging with just the right group.

Yup, I pretty much want to build out the perfect place for a kinky sex romp in the woods, somewhere in the Rockies, where I can join or build or otherwise be a part of a close knit kinky community that trusts and fosters its own, while exploring all the crazy things that get us off.

In the woods.

The thing is, I could build this pretty easily. I’m the kind of person that gets and idea and makes it happen. If i can work up the money to build it, I will. I’m not as good at building the people-side of things (shy and lack of self confidence). But if I can grow as a person and a sub, I can build the perfect retreat for our people. The only thing I believe in more than dreams and ideas, is making them come alive.