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Blogs You Should Be Reading

There are myriad better bloggers and site owners than me – guys who know their stuff and freely share their knowledge and experience. Here’s a few kinksters, subs, Doms, and the otherwise unclassifiable I look up to and learn from:

Vulcan
Not really a blog, per se, and far as I can tell, not updated much, if at all, anymore.  But the archive material is worth reading as he gives a really great overview on all aspects of the BDSM life, especially understanding what makes a good sub/bottom.

The Master and His slave – from Master Christopher and His pupslave keith
Two up and coming leaders in the whole world of Master/slave dynamic and lifestyles, at least in the circles I follow. This is a married duo who fell in love first, and then discovered and added the M/s roles to their relationship. In between delightful recountings of their sexcapades is a lot of great knowledge born of experience and their own learning journeys. Must read.

24/7/365 BDSM Blog
One of the newer additions to my feed reader, I’m still getting to know this blog but I’ve really enjoyed what I’ve read so far. The personal musings, some introspective, some perspectives on the lifestyle, but a thoughtful well-written blog I’m looking forward to reading more from.

Break the Twink and Ben in Leather Land
Joe and Ben are two guys I look up to because I wish I was like them when I was their age, which isn’t that long ago – jeebus I’m only 28 – but at the ages they started I was still figuring out that Yes I was gay and Yes that’s okay. So to me, they are two blogmentors who know their shit. Ben’s also a great rope top, from what I’ve seen, and doubtless you’ve seen him or his work and just didn’t know it was him.

Sparky’s No Safe Word BlogSparky’s been exploring the kinky life for seven years, he says, and his blog is full of great stories of his experience, insights and advice from his perspective on the life. I’m still getting to know this blog, too, but I’m looking forward to reading more.

There are more blogs to talk about, of course, but we’ll get to them at another time. If you aren’t already reading these, then you best be on your way because they are way more interesting and useful that me.

New Year, Now What?

So I’ve been absent – from pretty much everything – for the last few months. Except for Twitter and my porno-tumbler-feed (which is pretty much on auto-pilot), I’ve just been too busy to blog, to sexplore, to anything fun or kinky. Between getting used to life with our dog, and digging through a nasty backlog of work and projects that are all way behind schedule, it’s just been a lot going on. And in general I think my sex drive has been lower. Bla bla bla, lots of excuses, so little time, all of that jazz. The end result has been little blogging here, and just raw pictures there. And it’s probably going to stay that way, in general, because I don’t wan this blog to just become all photos and porn. Those will stay at the Tumblr, and even if it means few(er) posts here, I want this blog to stay mostly cerebral (with some happy time inspirational photos of course).

So what’s ahead for 2011? Puh-lenty. And I fear that with all that’s going on I just won’t have a lot of time for kinky sexploration. Among other things …

Work, work, work: work’s not letting up, which is a good thing because I need the business, and it can also be good because some of it I will have to travel for. On the down side, it means stress, time away from home/family (which I’d rather spend with them than some kinky stranger), and the places I normally travel to for work are boring-as-shit for kinky play.

Weight loss: I’m ramping up my weight loss efforts again, which is a further time constraint because I spend 1-2 hours a day at the gym. But it’s also something I really enjoy doing, actually, and I really want to make a go of it this time and see some real, better results. I won’t talk about this again, probably, because I normally don’t except at a different, anonymous blog, but

Getting married: My boyfriend and I are getting married in April, which means a TON of work in the next three months, some of it in the next two weeks, even. We’ve already been behind the curve in getting things ready for it, so there’s a lot to do to make up that lost time. And then of course the actual ceremony and honeymoon (Europe – woot).

Honeymoon: A week and a half in Europe – our favorite place to travel. Thinking of the Ice Hotel, perhaps.

Cross-country move: Frankly, the boyfriend and I are tired of New York City. We’re ready to move to the mountains – and plan on going to Colorado (Denver / Boulder) this May or June. I have no idea what to expect of the kinky community out there, but it should otherwise be an improvement for our lives and I’m looking forward to it.

So that’s what’s on tap for the first half of the year. After that? who knows! If I could, I would love to squeeze in some play and sexploration in there in the next few months, but I just dunno. I don’t wanna wham-bam-thank-you-ma’am kind of thing, and I can’t do special travel just for sex, but hey, if the right situation comes along, I’m there! In the meantime, I want to continue thinking, blogging, talking, so don’t be shy! (even if I am… )

Blushing

So I was on family vacation last week (which in itself is a form of mental S&M). While I was gone my blog apparently skyrocketed in traffic (relatively speaking, of course) on the first day I was gone. I rarely look at my stats – and today it was just on a lark because I’m bored – but it turns out someone over at GayDemon.com wrote a nice little profile about me. I almost feel like blushing!  Even more so when I’m there next to awesome guys like Ruff (who is in the “anytime, anywhere” category) and Scott, whose blogs I love.

So … wow. Now I feel a little bad I don’t update as regularly. heh

Also – I just discovered MetalBondNYC linked to me and I discovered a new blog called Paridiso Estremo linking to me too (and added to my reader). Thanks guys!