Sometimes I Think I Could Be a Switch

At Thunder earlier this summer, one of the seminars I went to was all about interrogation. It was a reasonably good discussion on the topic, though I was honestly only half paying attention because Sir was off buying a flogger and texting me questions. But as I’m listening and watching the presentation on various techniques—from the types of things to ask to disorientation to demanding absurd answers—I kind of began to think how much fun it would be to design something like an interrogation scheme. And since I would be designing it, I couldn’t very well be the sub in it, so does that mean I could really Dom on occasion?

I love and crave creativity, complexity, and immersion. Of course I don’t play in kinkspace simply to fulfill fantasies, but the very nature of kink is creativity, so designing a short term, immersive scene absolutely has it’s place. And I love that—I love throwing parties and events because I can create experiences. Sexual experiences should be as much if not immensely more intense and visceral. Sex is biological, the mind and imagination make it sensual.

In the sense of creating something for someone else, of helping another fulfill their fantasies or try something new … I could be a switch for that, because ultimately that is still about serving someone else, even if in order to serve I have to control.

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I have been attracted to the idea of interrogation (among a variety of other scene themes) largely thanks to Star Trek. The geekiest kinksters know exactly what I’m referring to: an episode in TNG where Picard is kidnapped and tortured-interrogated. He ultimately resists, but the mind game the interrogator plays has been a recurring fantasy ever since. And yet, creating an immersive and complete scene is not easy, and there are not many other kinksters and Doms who can dive as deeply into it as I would hope.

So if I’m one who creates immersive experiences for fun, and I can dream up a start-to-finish scene with all the visceral and mental bells and whistles, could I do that for another sub? I would love to. I would love to create the pretexts, the setting, the tone, the plan of activities, and go on a mental-sexual journey with someone by diving deep into some other role.

And importantly, I think I would get something out of being the Dom for a scene, because it would allow me to flex my creativity and experiment with something new. I don’t think of myself as a Dom, and it’s not something I want for myself. I’m not a good top sexually, and I have to be the boss too much as it is in my work life: so I am not fulfilled by dominance, I live to serve.

But in this one case, in the sense of creating something for someone else, of helping another fulfill their fantasies or try something new? Yes, I could be a switch for that, because ultimately that is still about serving someone else, even if in order to serve I have to control.

So… any takers?

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